My youngest daughter is at a magical age. She thinks that the automatic doors, faucets, and hand dryers are all magical, and she often dresses up as a princess. She just boughta Belle outfit and new shoes for her Cinderella dress. One day last week after I helped her into the car, she called me “magic.” She’s never been to Disneyland, but for her, childhood is magical, and I realized that moms are pretty magical to their kids. Moms can make tears disappear, make meals appear, and create laughter. They seem to magically appear when we need their help. Since I’ve been a mom, I’ve often admired moms who both raised 7 children! I agree with Chloe that our moms are magical and I want to honor and celebrate all women who nurture and serve. To every woman, thank you for your service to your family and your community.
I just learned that the first Mother’s Day in the U.S. was celebrated in 1908, which is before you or I were alive! Anna Jarvis wanted to honor her mother Ann. Ann had unified other women to help wounded soldiers during the American Civil War. Before she died, her mother Ann said, “I hope and pray that someone, sometime, will found a memorial mother’s day commemorating her for the matchless service she renders to humanity in every field of life. She is entitled to it.” I love Anna's purpose for celebrating mothers.
As I’ve grown, I realized that not everyone likes Mother’s Day. Some women feel guilt, grief, sadness, and other negative emotions on this holiday. But it can also be a happy day filled with good memories! I’ve been thinking about what to give our mom’s to help them feel honored. I needed to write this post because I haven't decided what to do for our moms. How can we honor and appreciate them? No matter what your budget is, you can honor your mom.
A few years ago my mother-in-law said she would be mad at us if we bought her something. She told us she didn’t need or want anything. I didn’t know what to do. I appreciated her and wanted to do something for her to show how much we appreciate her, but didn’t know how since I couldn’t buy the traditional flowers or chocolates.
Here are a few things that I came up with to honor our mothers:
Service. Since moms serve their families and their communities, service is a great way to celebrate Mother’s Day. My husband and kids clean my car every Mother’s Day. I love this gift. This year, my sister-in-law suggested we make dinner for my mom and give her the day off from cooking because our mom regularly hosts dinners and cooks for everyone. What service have you done for moms or what services have been done for you? Some of these are small and simple but can mean a lot. Hugs, kisses, coloring pictures are great. This isn’t just for kids but for adults and can be done year round!
Peace. The best gift my kids could give me is peace to ride in the car without hitting, kicking, teasing, or bugging one another. Tommy was a peacemaker today. He calmly got in the car to go to school. He didn’t fight. When my youngest started throwing a tantrum so she could listen to her music, he calmly asked if they could please listen to kid’s music. I told him how much I appreciated him doing that.
Homemade cards. These are some of my favorite gifts from my young children, but even our moms love handmade cards. In fact, that’s usually the only thing that Ty’s mom requests.
Remember her and follow her example! She doesn’t need a Facebook account for you to follow your mom’s life. Especially if your mom isn’t living, she left a legacy and you can remember her.
Appreciate her. Gifts such as jewelry, flowers, chocolates could mean a lot to your mom. I don’t think any mom would want their child to go into debt or stress about how to pay for their gifts, but if you have a large budget and can afford it, enjoy giving these gifts! Even though Ty’s mom doesn’t want us to buy her gifts, we did buy her some flowers to plant in her yard. She really enjoys that.
Be happy. Moms want us to be confident, happy, courageous, and kind. They see our gifts and our personalities.
Forgive. Until I became a mom I didn’t realize all that my mom did for me and how challenging motherhood can be. I was too hard on her. We can forgive not just our moms but others on behalf of your mom: the guy who backs his car into yours, the child who throws tantrums. the friend who let me down. I’m sure my mom had to forgive my behavior so many times. Forgiving others helps us become like our moms.
Time. My friends often comment about how fast time is going and how we wish it wouldn’t. Spending time with your mom might be the most precious gift that you can give her. Yesterday we spent the Sunday afternoon playing games with Ty’s mom and dad.
Whatever you do, make Mother's Day as magical as possible by honoring her! Please share it with us!